Earlier this year I wrote about how single, Christian women can pray for their future husbands. Well, last month I saw the War Room movie the week after it came out.
I mimicked the character Miss Clara and literally made one of my rooms in my home a prayer “closet”. It works. I brought a number of concerns and issues to God in my room and in just under a month He’s already provided answers and strategies for most of them.
One thing in particular that I brought to God in prayer was the desire for marriage and family. I see so many broken marriages. I see even more marriages where both parties want out but no one is saying anything.
And all I can think is “I’ve come this far, I’m going to believe God for a godly marriage”.
And it seems that like never before, many single, Christian women feel hopeless. They feel that although they want marriage and a family it will never happen – especially if they’re over 30.
But as I started taking this issue to God, I received a newfound hope that no matter what statistics say, God has the final say. God also started placing people in my path who prayed for me and showed care and concern over my desires.
Although I’m mature enough to not get emotionally riled up or inspired by just a movie alone, the War Room has biblical truths in it. Truths that, when applied, work.
I’ve seen God move in my life before, but I never wholeheartedly invited Him to fight on my behalf concerning my singleness. I never brought this issue to God consistently or strategically in prayer.
This movie inspired me to do that. And instead of walking away from my time with God discouraged about this issue, I walked away encouraged knowing that God still answers prayers and that He can answer that one too.
So here are some of my current prayer strategies that you can use as well:
Pray for mentors
In the movie, Elizabeth was spared marital failure because she finally allowed Clara to come alongside her, help her, and teach her how to fight in prayer. At the end of the movie, Clara reveals her own failures and how she was now determined to use that to help young women avoid those same outcomes.
If you meet someone who wants to mentor you and has those motives, graciously accept those offers so you can avoid unnecessary mistakes.
Pray for godly, positive examples of marriage and family
Faith comes by hearing the Word of God, but there were people in the Bible who came to know God by the example that was set before them.
Ruth came to know God because of Naomi’s influence on her. Rahab left a life of prostitution and came to the faith because she saw how God moved for the Israelites and wanted that for her own life.
So instead of focusing on what’s culturally acceptable (high divorce rates, poor attitudes towards marriage and family) pay attention to the people who are getting it right and hold out hope that God can do that in your own life.
Pray for your own attitude and outlook
My big brother in Christ told me “You get what you expect”. The Bible says that a double-minded man should expect to receive nothing from God.
Make the decision now to believe in God and focus your eyes on Him. Make the decision now to have accountability partners who can keep you from sinking into hopelessness and despair.
Failure is guaranteed if you quit. Unstable thinking will only yield weakened faith and it’s a woman’s faith that pleases God. Failure is guaranteed if you have faith one day and then completely uproot it the next.
But if God already won the war through Jesus Christ, you always have a chance if you keep your faith and hope alive.
If you are reading this now and you are single and don’t want to be, you have nothing to lose by praying over your singleness and your desire for marriage and a family. If you’ve tried everything in your own power and reasoning and nothing has worked, it’s time to take your situation to the One who has all power in heaven and earth.
He could say no, but I’m willing to bet that your time with Him in prayer will encourage you to expect a Yes! Pray without ceasing and believe in the God who makes all things possible.
By Afi Pittman